formula for friendships??

How does one learn to trust again?  Is there some formula: a + b = c ? How do you learn to see the blessings in people hurting you and being exactly what you were hoping they weren't? I am trying to understand how I can learn to trust and to put myself out there. It's hard to allow myself to be vulnerable...But I am a social person and a passionate person. It's hard for me because truthfully I love people. I see them as created in the image of Father.. I know He loves them and asks me to also. I enjoy being sociable. I love laughing and visiting. I love being there for others when they might need me and knowing they are there for me too..

I am still learning how to recognize safe people. It's a hard thing but I can see I am getting better at it.. I guess the adage live and learn applies here.

I don't think I am expecting too much..
Things like loving like Christ
being there for each other
understanding
listening to each others feelings
putting yourself in their shoes
selflessness instead of selfishness
humbleness instead of pride
etc..

I think we can all agree we all hope for these things in our relationships.

I will keep praying and being open to learning new lessons. I will continue to try and then try and then try again.. And I will continue to do my best to love as Christ loved and to walk away from bad relationships where I missed the obvious signs of an unsafe person..

And I too want to be open to hearing from Father on how I can change and be more like Him in my behavior towards others. Always lots to learn in this area.

Like so many things in life it's a journey; although it can be painful there is much joy in the journey! I don't want to miss out on that! And a thought comes to me; I don't want to miss out on the ways I can bless others!! Perhaps just as in all things Father had a purpose and a plan so in this too! :)