Now that things have started to settle down for us a bit I am trying to put my focus on getting back into Yah's word daily and work on those things He has shown me that need work in my marriage.
Over the years I have developed attitudes toward my dh that I don't like. I am not sure when it happened and I can't pinpoint the exact moment they began but it is what it is..
One day a few weeks ago I stood looking in the mirror thinking how much I disliked who I was when around my dh. Bad attitudes creep in so easily. When my dh came home that evening I confessed this to him and since that night I have been working towards improving the way I relate to my dh.
When I sit and truly ponder who my dh is I realize how very blessed I am. I can get so caught up on those little things that because I think upon them too much become great big monsters. Then they seem much bigger than they actually are!
My dh is a sweet kind man. He is willing to help me and does so much for all of us. He works hard everyday to provide for us. He helps me with raising the children. He cooks and cans. He organizes all of my pantry shelves. Thats a huge help!! :)
Something that a lady I met while living in IN said to me has helped me alot. She said that I was like her in that I have my principles and I put my principles before people. How true! I do that with everyone including my dh. I am working on remembering people are more valuable than the principles I hold myself to.
A few things I am doing:
I am stopping before I speak and making sure my tone is kind.
I am purposefully speaking kind things to my dh even if I don't feel that way at the time.
I am trying to say something uplifting to him everyday.
I am already seeing, no feeling a change in myself just from acting on these things.
Today's scripture from my devotion speaks to this:
"And my G-d will meet all your needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Yeshua." Philippians 4:19
Yah will provide all I need to treat my dh with the honor he deserves. He will supply what I need to act in a way that reflects the love of Father.
Blessings!
very good post, ambra! i know what you mean...it's so easy to let little annoyances become big problems. how often do we stop and look at ourselves and our own annoying traits? rarely, because we don't have them, right? LOL. i like your list of things that you are doing...i need to do the same..thanks for this post! <3
ReplyDeleteA good post, as always.
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