These last few weeks I haven't been feeling very gracious towards my children. I just feel like I have given all I can..
There were things with the children's behavior that caused these feelings and then of course being at the end of my pregnancy and all that comes with that added to it.
I don't want to feel this way so today I took action. I redid our chore chart changing chores and adding some of the younger ones. I then made up a laundry chart, cooking chart and "Did You"...chart for the cleaning of bedrooms. I also set new rules for morning routines. What's to be accomplished by what time, etc.. I set a new currency for chores done without being asked. All of these things were talked over with the children so they are aware of what's expected of them.
And the next thing I plan to do is R-E-L-A-X! I am hard on myself and want everything to be just so... I like order and to be organized having a perfectly clean home. I want children who say nothing but yes ma'am and then obey without question. My children are well behaved but they are not perfect. We are still in the process of training them. In reality all these things won't always happen exactly like I want them to. There will be times of setbacks and frustration. Times I am overwhelmed and tired.
I can relax; knowing that my children know what's expected and what will happen if it's not done and done well. Cause and effect...obedience and disobedience.
I want to learn to be uptight less and love them more! I want to spend time loving on them and cuddling; reading books and laughing. This is my greatest goal as their mama!
I want to learn to understand my olders and to learn to listen when they share. Growing up is such a hard time for the kiddos and for mama and daddy! I don't have all the answers but I am willing to learn..willing to let the L-rd guide me as I walk in His ways.
And I need more patience...lots of it! Patience to let them learn by messing up and the consequences that come because of their choices.
And most important I need to be in His Word as much as I can. Soaking up His wisdom! I will have another baby blessing soon. And life gets overwhelming but thru His strength and the endurance He gives I can be all He wants me to be.
(NKJV) Psalms 73:26 My flesh and my heart fail; [But] God [is] the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
(NKJV) Psalms 55:22 Cast your burden on the LORD, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.
(NKJV) Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
(NKJV) Philippians 3:13 Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing [I do,] forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead,
Lovely post. You do have a lot on your plate and your have set reasonable goals. I pray that you will find peace and wisdom in your parenting and especially as you welcome your new little on into your home.
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annesta
I am right where you are right now! It doesn't help that I'm at an early stage of pregnancy either. I'm tired, cranky, and quite frankly my favorite place in the house right now is in the recliner, with some ginger ale beside me. Thank you for being so honest, because I thought something was wrong with me for having the same thoughts. I know there are changes that need to be made right now in our family. Could you give me an example of some of the chores you have for your children and at what ages? I will come back to see what you post, or your more than welcomed to email me at MamaLynn@hotmail.com. Thank you so much! Your blog is a G-d send to me!!
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ReplyDeleteI have some of the same feelings, the order and things....I think of you often being so close to having a blessing.....May you be filled with His shalom!